10 Tips to Develop Interpersonal Communication Skills for a Healthy Relationship

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A healthy relationship cannot survive without successful communication. Interpersonal communication is based on face-to-face discussions.  Individuals can share thoughts, ideas, and information, which is a wonderful recipe for building intimacy, creating a connection, and exploring a lifetime of happiness.  Examine these 10 essential ways to emotionally communicate in a relationship.

  1. Don’t let too much time pass if you feel your relationship is in trouble. Find someone who can give you the support you need.  You should feel comfortable with whomever you choose.  If not, find another person to speak with.
  2. Be proactive and maintain a healthy relationship. Surprise your spouse.  Add spice to your relationship.  For example, surprise your partner by performing a task they normally complete.
  3. Set aside time to check-in with your partner each day. Develop your interpersonal communication skills through face-to-face discussions. Make sure you are in a quiet place.  In other words, the environment should be free of distractions, so you can give your undivided attention.
  4. Do not blame, but ask for what is important to you. Be accountable and show your partner gratitude. For instance, instead of saying “You made me lose my job”, try “I would be grateful if you could agree to allow me 1 hour to call my clients”.
  5. Notice signs that your relationship is in trouble. Some signs may include: verbal insults, emotional absence, and declining intimacy.  Non-supportive behaviors can have a negative impact on relationships with children.
  6. Say “I love you” tell your spouse you are thought about them. Do not assume your spouse knows how you feel.  Verbally communicate your affection to build intimacy in your relationship.
  7. Show affection before sharing physical intimacy. Remember to give hugs.  Share kisses.  Squeeze each other lovingly.  Tender touches set the stage for romance.
  8. Never talk over each other. Let the person speaking share their thoughts.  Do not accuse each other.  Saying “You are the most worthless spouse ever” tends to increase arguments and leads to defensive language and behavior.  An alternative approach is to say “I do not like it when you buy clothes before paying the bills”.  Instead of feeling that his character has been attacked, the spouse may realize this is an opportunity to develop a plan to improve the specified behavior.
  9. Spend time building a relationship by getting to know each other. Go for a walk.  Share some quiet time together.  Interaction increases the depth of communication and strengthens your relationship.  Allow time for each of you to openly express yourself.  For example, ask “What did you think about the Star Wars movie?”   Or, “How do you emotionally feel about our relationship now, versus when we first met?”  These conversations need to occur without judgment, which builds.
  10. Have fun. Let yourself laugh.  Having a good time encourages you to relax around each other.  This lays the foundation for a strong emotional bond that can rise and conquer every day challenges.

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