Thoughts on Competitive Advantage

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In order to provide the necessities of life, people desire a competitive advantage and strive to gain a lead over those with similar objectives.

However, at some point in time, those we are competing with become aware of the knowledge or skill we use that has put us in a favorable position. After studying, experiencing, or teaching himself or herself, the competition  begins to employ these processes to achieve their purpose.

Once this happens, we will fail to retain the competitive advantage, which deprives us of the favorable position we once held over the rivalry, because our prior tactics are now in widespread use by a large group of people. As a result, in this area, our once promising situation has now come to an end.
How could one move forward to get ahead of the competition?

The Quality of Our Thoughts: What We Think, We Become

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Each of us holds beliefs and opinions about someone or something.  We have the ability to use our mind to develop ways to accomplish our goals.  Or, we can allow our thoughts to wander and leave us in undesirable states.

The Results of Our Thinking

Sometimes, the views we hold, cause us to judge someone or something.  So, we blindly accept information as being true.  There are times when we settle on a way of thinking about someone, based on how we see his or her behavior.  We firmly believe our thoughts are true and make snap decisions without completing a mental process to determine if you thoughts are right or wrong.

This unchecked method of thinking allows our biases to strongly influence the decisions we choose to make about someone or something.  If we make assumptions and believe something is true without proof, we create situations that are not morally right and unfair to ourselves and other people affected by the quality of our behavior.

Benefits of Improving the Quality of Our Thoughts

On the other hand, the caliber of our thoughts can improve the quality of our lives and those around us.  Poor-quality thinking results in lower performance.  Allowing our mind to give serious consideration and careful thought can make us a better person.  Improving the quality of our thoughts causes us to grow, lifts our inner spirit, and positively influences our character, behavior, which magnetically attracts the attention and interests of those around us.

Our quality of thought has unimaginable power.  When we allow time for reflection and think deeply, the outcome of our thought can create pure magnificence.  Not only will we surprise ourselves and improve our future, we will inspire and lift up those who come into contact with us.

How to Improve the Quality of Our Thoughts

We have the power to strengthen the quality of our thoughts.  To continuously develop the quality of our thought, we must regularly allow an opportunity for slow and careful thinking.


Greatness lies within all of us, which can improve the condition of our lives.  We possess the ability to overcome biases by cultivating our mind to think meaningfully.  Careful, deliberate thinking allows us to produce the best that we have to offer for ourselves and those around us.


Start a Conversation: Ways to Help a Failing Relationship

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Dialogue is essential to exchange ideas and opinions, especially in difficult situations.  Those conversations can derail if one person uses language to point another person’s faults, while trying to correct a problem.  However, every person should consider using positive communication to share feedback that gets results.


Relationship Struggles

Sometimes, individuals experience relationship trouble.  For instance, that person may have  trouble getting along with someone.  Another issue is that previous relationship bonds have become broken, and result in continuous disagreement.  There are instances when people are fed up with each other and no longer want to have dealings.  These situations make it hard to converse.


The Headaches of Relationships Gone Bad

Relationship issues give rise to a series of emotions.  For example, people experience mood changes.  Conversation becomes awkward and painful.  Oftentimes, people have feelings of being stuck, unable to move forward with one another.  Furthermore, individuals tend to think they have spent way too much time on the problem.  Without resolution, individuals become angry and resentful of each other.


Make a Plan to Save the Relationship

There are clear-cut ways to resolve these situations.  Communication tools can positively influence another person’s behavior.  Yet, the situation may require all involved parties must be willing to change the way they view the situation.

Use positive communication that focuses on the person’s strengths.  One tool should be to speak to the other person’s strengths.  The person speaking should use language that focuses on the other person’s interests and what is important to the person they are speaking to.

The person delivering the message will also benefit from good, positive communication.  For example, these responses allow them to be honest, provide authentic feedback, and the positive environment allows them to communicate their position, while sharing their thoughts using non-threatening language.

Helpful Language Gets Results

There are multiple benefits from using positive communication.  People listen and pay attention to what you have to say.  Oftentimes, the other person will be open to negotiation to find a way to reach an agreement that can be beneficial to all parties involved.  Fostering a positive environment can allow a person to make small changes in their behavior, which can eliminate conflict.  Furthermore, these powerful situations allow every person to take part in sharing their voice to shape future outcomes of the relationship.  Aiming for positive, criticism-free conversation without putting the listener in a defensive mode, allows the other person to change their behavior and grow.


Steps to Get the Conversation Going

There are simple ways to introduce healthy conversation.  Here are some simple steps to create positive, criticism-free conversation

  1. First, state the current situation as you see it. For instance, if a difficult situation arises, one person should go to the other person.  Face-to-face, one person start by verbally explaining the situation, based on their viewpoint.
  1. Second, hear the other person’s thoughts. One should ask the other person to share their viewpoint, while remaining silent.
  1. Third, focus on building trust. For instance, the person listening should admit the points of view they share the same opinion on and the feelings they had.
  1. Fourth, contrast dissimilar views. All parties involved in the conversation should state the points of view they have a different standpoint on.
  1. Fifth, make a simple plan to move forward. Together, a consensus should be reached using a simple set of action steps to move forward in the relationship.



Relationships may experience difficult times.  However, there are tools to keep important people in each of our lives.  Instead of speaking negatively to about a person, positive communication can help remove barriers.  When people take the time to understand how the other person feels, what is important to them, and look for a solution that helps everyone move forward, powerful relationships develop.


Move Away from Intention and Aim for Results

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Do you or someone you know get into difficult situations?  If so, what do your discussions entail? This morning, I was reading and came across a statement that seemed deep and worthy of attention.  The writing read, “regardless of intention, the result is still the same”.  How profound is that?  I do not know about you, but there have been several experiences in my life when people try to address an issue by talking about their intentions.  My purpose here is to help you change the conversation and move away from discussions about intention, but to talk about how to aim for results.


Understanding Intention

Intention is defined as an aim.  For some, intention is about one’s plan.  Oftentimes, people want to direct attention to what they really intended, what they really meant to do.


Reflecting on Intention vs. Result

The questions for me involve conversations that aim for results.  In my life, when I have been on the receiving end of these conversations, I could not think of a meaningful response that added value to these types of discussion that were aimed at focusing on the person’s intention.  After reading this profound statement, “regardless of intention, the result is still the same”, I have experienced a change of heart.  For instance, why didn’t the person’s rhetoric focus on the result of their actions?  Why didn’t they share meaningful dialogue that acknowledges the consequences of the behavior and their plan to move forward?  How could they overlook the outcomes that did not occur because of their action or lack of action?


How to Move Away from Intention and Aim for Results

In many instances, the discussions I have had are rarely about the effect one’s action or lack of action caused.  People focused on talking about their intention, which rarely involve a reflection on the ramifications that stem from their conduct that did not aim for results.

When people depend on a person to bring about desirable outcomes, the overriding need should be the central focus of the conversation.  One should share a plan that shows the intention to use another method that delivers expected results.  Therefore, discussing intention is never good enough, when the result is still the same.  Instead, the focus should be directed towards outlining the actions that will be different to produce intended outcomes.

Watch the Company You Keep: Why Become Your Best Self

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Be aware of the company that you keep and be on your toes when you are sharing your time with others.  The purpose of this writing is to get you to realize that each person you spend time with influences how you emotionally think and feel.

You should always be aware of how you feel around each person you encounter.  For example, you can perceive the feelings you have when talking with another person, such as do you feel happy, inspired, or does the person leaves you feeling sad, demotivated, and energy-sapped.  Humans have the capacity to become familiar with their emotional state to consciously recognize their reactions around the company they may be keeping.  When conversing with others, you have the ability to examine comments exchanged during each interaction.  As a result, you can study your emotions to examine your feelings in that moment.

Benefits When You Watch the Company You Keep

Personal and Professional Development

At work, unscheduled conversations and lots of small talk can derail career advancement.  Likewise, personal development takes time.  The process requires a series of focused actions and steps to fulfill your aspirations.  When you fail to monitor the mood that other people have contributed to you feeling, it takes a great deal of effort to redirect your attention and focus to work on your goals.

Financial Aspirations

You may work for yourself or you may want to earn extra income on the side.  To make money, it is imperative that you recognize that time is money.  Furthermore, working for yourself requires motivation and demands that you participate in high quality, useful activities to accomplish your business aims.


Drawbacks When You Watch the Company You Keep

Emotional drain

Poor relationships fail to improve your mood.  For example, unfocused people waste your time.  They tend to unload their troublesome situations onto you.  The sad part is they rely on you to listen, with no intention of solving the problem.

Time drain

To get where you want to go in life, you must prepare and pay particular attention to your activities.  You cannot progress toward your goals without following a well-coordinated plan.  Time quickly runs out.  So, occupy your time with people who can add value to your life, instead of depriving your dreams of the vitality that is a necessity to energize and activate your dreams.

Lack of motivation

There are people in life who lack motivation.  These people do not have specific interests.  They are not enthusiastic about anything special.  Their lack of excitement can damage your efforts to fulfill your ambition.  You must safeguard your mind and your time so that your experience, thoughts, and feelings are positively influenced by people who have behaviors and information that will be useful to fulfilling your dreams.


Ways to Improve How You Watch the Company You Keep

Willfully inspecting your internal responses as you engage with other people, gives you information, which can help you modify your involvement with individuals who unfavorably affect you.  As a result, you can take measures to lessen the amount of time you mingle with that person.  You should continuously review how you feel to protect your physical and emotional well-being.

You should be aware that keeping company with people that have an unpleasant influence on you could cause unwanted results.  For example, desires, hopes, and dreams that you want to realize, keeping the wrong company can stop you from doing what is necessary to reach your goals.

On the other hand, keeping company with people whose presence has a desirable effect on your inner-self, can energize your well-being.  These individuals tend to fire you up and elevate you mentally.  As a result, their spark triggers strong feelings of want within you to have “something” or wish for “something” to happen, that encourages your developmental growth, or you activate your increased yearning for “something”.

The focus of this viewpoint is to get you to become aware of the company you keep by understanding that the time you invest in people is consciously important and worthy of your attention, because if you fail to examine how others influence your emotional state, you will become dissatisfied with your personal or professional situations.  From my point of view, human beings must critically examine the moral makeup, behavior, and attitudes of the people they spend time with.  Using this approach enables you to become aware of your thinking and the feelings you experience around someone, whose influence may later reflect in your behavior.  My suggestion is that by taking the specific action of observation; you will reveal unknown information to help yourself understand the far-reaching consequences that result when keeping bad company because people can have a major impact on your success and each person can greatly affect the quality of your life.

To test this theory, pay close attention to the next person you encourage.  Observe the feelings you experience.  For example, do you experience a feeling of satisfaction or enjoyment?  On the other hand, you should also observe whether you feel uneasy or inconvenienced.

Becoming aware of the company you keep has advantages and disadvantages.  Another opinion is to consider whether it is okay to mix socially with everyone and allow each person to spend time with you as they see fit.  To illustrate this point, let us assume that a person named Janet, needs personal development.  This means she feels a powerful desire to increase her intense yearning to make discoveries and test the potential of what she finds.  Therefore, it frustrates her when people visit her unexpectedly, because she has to draw upon mental resources to make small talk.  For Janet, she dislikes these inconsequential talks because she feels they do not contribute to her overall success.  Furthermore, her perception is that the conversation shared by some of the people she spends time with, detracts from her ability to achieve her personal and professional goals.



When you allow anyone to squander your time, you are likely to experience failure in achieving your goals.  The bottom line is that you should be honest with yourself and pay attention to the company you are keeping.  It is virtually impossible for you to get in touch with the person you want to become when you allow any and every one to dictate how you spend your time.  Vigilantly monitoring who you spend time with, can help you find the right type of people who trigger your hunger and contribute to you working towards getting what you truly crave out of your life.

Knowledge Transfer Best Practices: 3 Simple Ways to Tear Down the Silo-Mindset

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Do you know someone who tends to think in silos?  Silos are containers that store grain.  Likewise, individuals with the silo-mindset restrict their brain to applying acquired information in the setting the information was obtained, thus falling into a knowledge trap.  The drawback of this mindset is that it diminishes an individual’s overall efficiency, results in missed opportunities, and leads to demotivation.

The main point of this writing is to reveal the life-changing benefits one can experience when they discover a resource, transfer the knowledge and skills gained, and vastly improve their overall quality of life.  The intention of this article is to describe the benefits of steering clear of the knowledge trap to stop thinking in silos.  There are many rewards for shifting knowledge captured in one setting into another situation.  Consider the main points that will follow and notice how the nature of your character and inner-self progress both personally and professionally.  For instance, you will find that you will adapt to a variety of situations and transform your life more quickly.  To implement these knowledge transfer best practices to overcome the silo-mindset, we will review the benefits of shifting the knowledge grasped from one area of life, to seize opportunities, increase personal motivation, and improve your self-reliance.

Knowledge Transfer Best Practice 1: Seize Opportunities

Skills obtained in your personal life can be pertinent to professional situations.  Failure to recall relevant knowledge or skills acquired in one setting may result in missed opportunities.  Let us consider a job hunter.  In the example, the individual has a passion for writing code and devotes time learning to program outside the workplace.  During working hours, the candidate’s job title is Bank Teller.  Let us assume the Bank Teller desires a change in career.  In an interview, the hiring manager asks the job applicant if they have programming experience.  If the candidate does not recall the skills he acquired in his spare time and share this information with the interviewer, the candidate may minimize the opportunity to get the desired position.  In other words, to attain favorable results, transfer the skills you gained in one setting to a relevant area of your life to capitalize on small windows of opportunity.


Knowledge Transfer Best Practice 2: Get Personal Motivation

Personal motivation can be a driving force to stimulate many areas of your life.  However, knowledge traps confine information.  Breaking down mental silos has the power to propel you to action and increase your inner flow of inspiration.  This transformational process allows you to maneuver challenging situations and overcome personal demotivation.  For instance, personal demotivation can cause you to feel less than eager to work on a project.  As a result, you may find yourself missing goals.  Disappointing results can wreak havoc in both our personal and professional lives.  Information acquired in various settings, can stimulate you to action, which can positively influence the outcomes in other areas of your life.


Knowledge Transfer Best Practice 3: Develop Self-Reliance

You can increase your personal and professional power by improving your self-reliance.  Self-reliance is a major boost to your self-esteem because it raises your self-confidence and develops your trust in your capabilities.  You become empowered, which enables you to side-step knowledge traps and avoid the disadvantages of thinking silos.  For example, you could ask yourself key questions when you are in a specific situation, such as how can you use the resource, or to connect with personal people you know such as friends, family, and loved ones.  Likewise, you attract others who notice how efficient you are.  Alternatively, you can ask how this information improves your business, management, and clients experiences by asking who can use the resource that you have discovered.  If you are a freelancer or work for yourself, you can ask, how you can use the tool to generate income.  As a result, you have the opportunity to enhance your influence and interaction with others to become a greater resource using your newfound skillset.



In summary, allow the knowledge and skills you acquire in one context to transfer to different environments.  Break down mental silos to embrace opportunities.  Apply these three simple best practices to transfer knowledge by seizing the moment, becoming personally motivated, and developing self-reliance to breakdown the silo-mindset and watch your developmental growth soar.

How to Get What You Want in Life

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Some people seem to have all the luck! Everything they want appears to come easy for them. Have you ever wanted something really bad? You desired it so much that you could not stop thinking about it. So, you decided to do something. But, you just didn’t know how to get started. Use these five methods to move beyond your present situation.

Visualize How to Get What You Want in Life

Set aside time to visualize what you want. Do not rush yourself. You may need at least one hour to clearly picture your desire. Use your senses to see your future state that you want, to become aware of how your heart will feel, and to discover how your present situation could lead to improved conditions for you.

Document Your Future Desires to Get What You Want in Life

Record what you want to get in the future. You can use pen and paper to write down your desire. Or, type your ideas on a computer-like device. However, if you dislike writing or typing, consider voice recording to capture your thoughts. For example, most mobile devices can use speech-to-text apps that convert the spoken language to text. Computer devices have similar technology available. The main purpose for doing this is to log your thoughts so you can refer to them later.

Find Proven Methods to Get What You Want in Life

You must locate information to jump-start the process to get what you want. Use Google as a resource. Based on the future you desire, type keywords that represent these concepts. Then, examine the database results. Google’s search engine can help you discover actions you need to carry out to get what you want. Make sure you gather information from at least three different sources.

Make a Plan of Action to Get What You Want in Life

Evaluate each source. Write at least three actions you will take to get what you want. Then, record how often you will complete each action. Finally, write the deadline date that your desires will be successfully achieved. Provide a sensible date that is favorable for your lifestyle. Reasonable dates help you to put effort into achieving what you desire.

Get to Work and Get What You Want in Life

Hooray! You made your action plan. Now, you must get to work. It is very important for you to physically take action and get out of your head. Get busy. Watch the changes your life will undergo as you move from an unpleasant state to the gratifying, desirable situation you wanted.

Review on How to Get What You Want in Life

Life is filled with success and failure. You can leave your present situation to chance. Or, you can take action to live the life of your dreams. To get started, imagine the future conditions you want to fulfill. Write down what the future situation should be. If you have no idea how to change your current position to the one you desire, use Google to find answers. Then, choose the best ideas that work best for your situation. Make a plan of action that you can commit to doing. Do not forget to add a reasonable deadline that shows when you plan to successfully achieve your desire. Post a comment. Let us know what you have done to successfully get what you want.

The Purpose of Up By One Website

What is The Purpose of This Site?

The main purpose of this site is to provide individuals valuable information and skills. Here, I want to focus on topics that help you become your best self. For example, every time you visit this site, you will learn at least one of the following:

  • How to solve a problem
  • How to overcome a fear
  • How to reach your goal


Which Topics Will Be Discussed?

This website will be dedicated to individuals who need information and processes to solve problems, achieve goals, and will cover topics such as life, technology, food, health, family, hobbies, news, relationships, inspiration, quotes, money, business, and leadership.


What is the Background of the Author?

Most of the information and skills will be provided by Tisha Alford. Yes, that’s is me. I have a varied background. For instance, as a teenager, I worked odd jobs for the local newspaper and fast food restaurants. After going to school, I received a diploma in Information Systems and Helpdesk Support. In the early part of my career, I was employed as an entry-level Helpdesk Administrator.  Later, I was hired as a Computer Technician and was promoted to a Senior Technician position. Once I received my Bachelor’s degree in Business Education, I begin teaching technology courses in Continuing Education, as a full-time Faculty at a Community College. Several years later, I pursued my Master’s Degree in Education. Once this was obtained, I decided to pursue a doctoral degree in Educational Leadership and Management. At the present, I still teach and hire instructors to teach basic computer courses, programming classes, and Microsoft programs. Needless to say, I look forward to creating content that I hope will increase my personal and professional growth. Along the way, I have decided to share my journey publicly to allow us to benefit from each other as we move forward.